Slow Turning

Like the song says, you can learn to live with love or without it

What They’re Saying

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I watched the Oscars this year because Neil Patrick Harris was hosting. I didn’t see any of the movies nominated so I didn’t care one way or another who won. I wanted to be entertained, but I ended up being moved.

It’s 2015 and there is still a need for people to speak out for equality and acceptance. In what is supposed to be the leader of the free world, we are still struggling with these issues. We are not focused on solving problems like climate change and education; we are fighting for marriage equality and voter rights. Thankfully there are people who are willing to speak up, like these people did tonight.

Patricia Arquette: Best Supporting Actress, Boyhood

John Legend & Common: Performance, Glory

John Legend & Common: Best Original Song, Glory

Graham Moore: Best Adapted Screenplay, The Imitation Game


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February 22, 2015 at 11:29 pm

What Is Love?

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As I was writing Christmas cards to my nephews, I was stuck trying to tell them why I loved them. Which then got me wondering, what is love?

I don’t love them for anything they do or don’t do. I don’t love them for the way they look or don’t look. I don’t even love them for what they believe in or don’t believe them. I love them simply because they are alive and I can’t imagine having to live without them. But how do I say that in a Christmas card?


With everything in the news, and all of the debates I’ve been having with friends, I was reminded about the ultimate justice: karma. It is the greatest equalizer when it comes to injustice.

And while karma may take care of past wrongs, a quote from the series finale of the Newsroom seemed relevant to the protests that are currently taking place, “We just decided to.” The movements may not help the people who have already lost their lives, but they just might help someone tomorrow.

So here’s to the players from the:

St Louis Rams: Davin Joseph, Stedman Bailey, Tavon Austin, Jared Cook, Chris Givens, and Kenny Britt

Cleveland Browns: Johnson Bademosi, Andrew Hawkins

Cleveland Cavaliers: LeBron James & Kyrie Irving

Detroit Lions: Reggie Bush

Knox College: Ariyana Smith

University of Maryland: Deon Long

Chicago Bulls: Derrick Rose

Brooklyn Nets

LA Lakers

Georgetown Hoyas

Here’s hoping that in 2015 we are able to turn the page and honor those who have unjustly lost their lives by holding those guilty accountable for their actions.

Jon Stewart - law enforcement





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December 15, 2014 at 9:59 pm

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Maybe Next Time

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One cop

One kid

One gun

One life lost


No indictment

No trial

No justice

No closure


Without due process we’re left with the questions of “why?” and “what if?”

The only answers we get are rumors and accusations

Maybe next time we will find the peace we’ve been lacking


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November 30, 2014 at 7:04 pm

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Chasing Love

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I’m not sure if I am impressed with the people who search for love in every face they meet, or if I feel sorry for them.

To believe in something so much and never give up is impressive. But is love so simple that it’s just a matter of looking hard enough for it? Do you have to see what love isn’t before you know what love is?

Maybe it’s the search for love that people fall in love with. They become addicted to the chases, the thrill of meeting someone new and anticipating the what-ifs. They crave the transformation of monotonous moments into exciting new experiences.

I wonder, though, if the chase ever starts to feel like a burden. To keep looking for love, all the while trying to force it with another new person.

And what happens to your heart every time you try to share its love with someone who isn’t “the one”? Does it make you better able to identify love or do you become numb to the process as a way to shield yourself from heartbreak?

What happens to love when you call something less than love, love?

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October 11, 2014 at 10:50 pm

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“Boobs on the Ground”?

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True Boots

Image by al3in_boy,  borrowed from the interwebs. Image by al3in_boy, borrowed from the interwebs.

Many of us are immensely proud of Maj. Mariam Al Mansouri of the United Arab Emirates Air Force who was the first female pilot from her country to fly combat missions over Syria this week. Prior to becoming a pilot, Maj. Mansouri was a soldier in the UAE Army.

The UAE has long been an important ally of the United States, and I have fond memories of Emirati soldiers welcoming me in for meals once or twice a week at Bagram Airfield back in 2006, when I’d go there with my Egyptian and Korean colleagues to eat the best food to be found on a military installation in Afghanistan–plus they welcomed us to play pool and ping pong in their nicer-than-American-standards recreational building. They were profoundly hospitable, and never once did they make me feel any less valued or welcome because I am a woman. And…

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September 29, 2014 at 9:52 pm

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Despite what society and the movies have told me, it has never occurred to me that not getting married is the same as being lonely.

Growing up I assumed that I would meet someone, fall in love, and get married but, as the years went by, I ended up being the bridesmaid and never the bride. And while I sometimes thought it would be nice to have a plus one, I never felt like there was anything lacking in my life.

What bothers me the most is that finding happiness as a party of 1 is not socially acceptable. It’s not overtly condemned, but there’s a feeling just below the surface that if you’re not searching for someone, even if it’s just for a temporary fix, you are an oddity because true happiness can only be found if you’re part of a couple.

As someone who prefers to be alone, I find the notion that you need someone else to be happy odd. It’s also slightly offensive since I believe that you have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with anyone else. If someone else is responsible for my happiness that means they can take it away. And that is not what I want. I want to own my happiness so that I can share it with, instead of get it from, other people.

My only point to this rant is that I’m tired of hearing that being alone is a sad, lonely place. I’ve never felt sad or lonely because I was on my own. If anything, it made me feel independent and free.



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September 7, 2014 at 10:58 pm

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Once In A Lifetime

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I never thought I’d be the girl who would want to hear sweet, loving words from a man.

I never thought I’d be the girl who wanted him near so that I could hold his hand and kiss his lips.

I never thought I’d be the girl who would smile when he said hello.

Yet here I am, after one chance meeting two months ago.

If I had been asked two months and one week ago who I wanted to meet, his name probably wouldn’t have crossed my lips. Nor would mine have crossed his. And yet, his name is the only one I have thought of since we met.

There isn’t a single trait or characteristic about him that I covet. More than anything else I just want to be next to him. I felt that way the instant I met him, and I still feel that way now. It is what I desire and long for. The closer I am to him, the happier I am.


Robin Williams

The most incredible thing to me about Robin Williams’ death is the reaction to it. From my friends, to random online posts, to comments by celebrities, I am struck by the common sentiment we have about losing him. It feels as though he was the same friend and influence on us all. That, more than anything else, I believe is a testament to the type entertainer he was. He knew how to pull us into his world.

It’s unfortunate that we could not pull him into ours so that he could see how much he meant to us.

#RIP Robin Williams. May peace be with you now.



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August 12, 2014 at 10:17 pm

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